Does buying your wife that diamond really say to her, “I love you?” Probably not.


I believe that sex is best when it is one on one.  However, is physical touch your spouse’s, or significant other’s, love language?  Does buying your wife that diamond really say to her, “I love you?”  Or, perhaps, she would be more satisfied with you spending some time with her in the garden.

Consider taking a few moments with your spouse or significant other to determine each other’s love language,
and then discuss ways to fill each other up with the love we all need. 
Mrs. Horseman and I did this, recently, in concert with discovery and sharing of
our Myers-Briggs personality types, and it was very informative, even after decades of marriage.

The official Myers-Briggs tests cost a nominal fee.  We originally took it as part of the pre-cana counseling required by our church before we were married.  We just took it again, decades later, from licensed/trained clergy as part of a couples workshop offered by our church.

am ENTJ and her primary love language is Quality Time. Unless a
conscious effort is made on my part, an ENTJ is unlikley to schedule
activites she considers quality time.

She is a INTP and my love language is Words of Affirmation.  Unless a conscious effort is made on her part, an INTP is highly unlikely to communicate words of affirmation.

Knowing what each other needs sounds so simple.  Unfortunately, like most people, we each thought that our own love language is how the other is best filled with love.  Nothing could have been further from the truth.

Click here to take the free Love Language test.



Long monogamous relationship and sobriety.



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